Before I begin, I need to explain something to you guys. You know how in a group of friends there’s always that one friend that just says the first thing that pops into her head without thinking? The big mouth. Yeah well, I’m that friend. Used to be anyway. Guys, take it from someone who knows this first hand, it’s necessary for everyone to filter their words. We don’t know the effect or damage it can have on other people. That being said, I’m going to be really honest about this topic. I think it’s important for people to know that the outfits they wear go a long way in describing them, but not necessarily defining them.
First impressions do matter a lot.
Look at Julia Roberts’s character in Pretty Woman. Fine she was a prostitute and very well looked the part, but the moment she changed her looks she was treated differently and with respect. No one could have guessed her actual profession. That alone should paint a clear picture of the point I’m trying to pass across here.
Growing up I was on the chubby side. But I wasn’t the cliché sad-lonely-chubby girl. I was a happy girl, so happy that I didn’t even realize that I was fat. I just thought I was big, bigger than most at least. It was my final year in high school that I actually decided to lose weight. Even then I still didn’t know I was fat, I just wanted to look extra nice in my graduation gown. Being that big automatically means I look older than my age. I didn’t have the luxury of wearing skimpy clothing like my mates. So if my friends were putting on short skirts, I’d have to wear leggings under my skirts, and that sort of thing. And I guess it just kind of stuck, and wearing revealing or inappropriate outfits just made me feel uncomfortable.
Dressing decently is not supposed to be an option but a lifestyle. The way you dress is the way you’ll be addressed. Boys will always be boys: they will honk, whistle, yell, and point when you walk by, whether you’re in a pant suit or a bikini. But deep down, you know what you have on. For your sake, let’s just hope it’s the right set of crowd you’re attracting. Social media will praise you, comment on your pictures “goals, yass, slay, lit”. But a time will come when you’ll have to face the real world. You go for a job interview and a photo from your past pops up, what happens then? Remember a picture is worth a thousand words. You see politicians paying so much money to get rid of pictures, emails, text messages that can discredit them.
“Kim Kardashian has a sex tape and still got wifed”, well honey you’re NOT Kim Kardashian, you don’t earn 25-30 million dollars every year, and your net worth isn’t $105 million.
Never console or encourage yourself by comparing yourself to other people that made it despite all their past (pardon my French) bullsh*t. People are different, we all have different paths and destinies set out for us. The sooner you realize that, the better.
There is right and wrong, good and bad, and no in-betweens. You can’t justify yourself by saying its short but not too short. Really though, what does that even mean?
Also, it’s very important to wear something that makes you feel comfortable. Don’t think of yourself as any less because you don’t have on what the rest of your peers are wearing. The Bible says your body is the temple of the Lord, so glorify God with your body, and not just “dress to impress”. Be unique, be different, bearing in mind that being unique can go both ways. Either positive or negative.
Some people didn’t grow up with such a conservative lifestyle and that’s okay. Change is inevitable, dressing decently is something that can easily be incorporated into someone’s lifestyle.
And please don’t be that friend that gasses up another friend when you know they look like crap. Tell! The! Truth!
I hope I’ve been able to provide clarity to someone out there. Leave your comments below and let us know what you think.
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