“Given that love is socially constructed, I note that it can be strongly affected by the beliefs about love that are present in the culture and that these beliefs can either be functional or dysfunctional.” – Patricia Noller in a May 2005 publication titled, “what is this thing called love?”

She gave her outlook and perspective to love that supports or concerns family and marriage from both behavioral to sentimental points of view.

Breaking down her idea of love into mature and immature love, she aimed to categorize the different facets coined under this wholesome term into these two sub-groups in a bid to offer more clarity to the conversation.

Love has a plethora of definitions, each formed from independently acquired perspectives and views. When regarding relations between two people, the term is easily dished out.

Ranging from a distinct emotion to an abstract nebulous idea, our ideas of love are diverse and subjective. These ideas of love are relative to one another based on our experiences or as the writer put it, a social construct paneled into your lives by depictions in movies, books, songs, etc.

Regardless of all these, we are individually charged with the task of uncovering, exploring, and experiencing our own versions of this thing called love like @sandrabassey_ and @david.eyo. In a brief chat with Fern Afrik Media, they share some insight on their love affair – “We feel a lot of emotions towards each other like anger, when we get upset at each other; fear, when our insecurities start to kick in. We start to question if we are enough, the fear of losing what we have. But Love, Love outweighs the other emotions. It brings peace, happiness, warmth, comfort, satisfaction, etc.

In this, we have learned how to understand, care, and support each other. Support is like our love language, when one person is down the other has to stand and lift.”

Patricia Noller concludes her conversation by stating that “it may best be conceptualized as creating an environment in which both the lovers and those who depend on them can grow and develop.” This seems like a general end goal aimed to be met by partakers of this endeavor, no matter how diverse or strange their version of it is.

What does ‘this thing called love’ mean to you?

Focus: @sandrabassey_ & @david.eyo
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  • Ukandi Atsu

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    Nigerian born Political Scientist, Creative Photographer and writer.

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